• Stop comparing yourself to other people. You were created as a very unique and special person. God had a plan for you long before you took your first breath. Relish that thought. Love the fact that you’re special. What God has in mind for you isn’t the same as for someone else. So you don’t have to feel bad that you don’t have all the qualities, features, money, or anything else that someone else has. Your journey is just that — yours.
  • Stop worrying about you all the time. Find a way to be a blessing to someone else. When you change your focus away from yourself, all of a sudden your self-image improves. You get to experience the feeling of satisfaction that only comes when you’re a blessing to someone else. Your priorities start changing, and one day you realize that the things that used to make you so jealous and so nuts, don’t bother you so much anymore.
  • Start focusing on all that’s positive in your life. God has given you so many wonderful gifts that many other people don’t have. Focus on using those gifts to help someone else. Since your mind can only consciously think about one thing at a time, doesn’t it make sense to make sure that “one thing” is positive and is moving you toward the really great things in life?

Source: http://christianity.about.com/od/practicaltools/i/overcomejealous_2.htm


seeking wisdom


  • Romans 12:2 reads, “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect His will really is.”
  • Romans 8:38 reads, “Our fears for today, our worries about tomorrow, and even the powers of hell can’t keep God’s love away.”
  • It is awesome to realize that God, Creator of the Universe, created us and considers us the crown jewel of all creation. Knowing the almighty power of The Great One should inspire us to seek Him. As we understand the truth of how He loves us, we should be encouraged to grow closer to Him so that He might change us into the person He created us to be.

    Here’s how you can overcome insecurity:

    Look in the right place. Stop wasting time and energy looking for security from your money, your health, your husband or boyfriend, your friends, your job, your beauty, or anyone or anything else that’s not God Himself, who is the only true source of security. Recognize that you won’t find security by chasing it down through circumstances (such as by thinking that you’ll feel better about yourself once you just lose some weight, find a boyfriend, get a better job, buy a newer car, etc.). Understand that security can only be found in the peace God offers you through Jesus. Embrace your identity as God’s beloved child and be assured that, through your relationship with Jesus, you have all the power you need to do God’s will in every situation.

    Discover God’s goodness to overcome perfectionism. When you ask the question, “Am I enough?” realize that you are, thanks to God’s goodness that gives you grace when you fall short and empowers you to grow. Don’t compare yourself to other women, give into envy or jealousy, insist on following your own agenda rather than God’s good plans for you, take credit for your strengths instead of recognizing that they’re God-given gifts, or give up when you fail rather than relying on the confidence God wants to give you. You don’t have to earn God’s love; He already loves you completely and unconditionally. His favor is based on His mercy, not on your desire or efforts. He has already made it possible for you to do whatever He calls you to do, simply by trusting Him and relying on His strength working through you. Even when you can’t see Him, remember that God is always at work bringing good outcomes out of even the worst circumstances in your life. Every day, make time to thank God for specific ways He has helped you in the past and is helping you now. Trust Him to continue to act according to what’s best for you in the future. Instead of trying to force situations to work out the way you want, surrender frustrating situations to God, telling Him that you trust Him to work them out in the right way at the right time. Celebrate God’s goodness to you by praising Him and picking up or buying a special memento that commemorates a specific answered prayer.

    Discover God as your rock to overcome self-reliance. When you ask the question, “Who can I count on?” realize that you can always depend on God. Make decisions based on God’s faithfulness, rather than just your own strengths and weaknesses. Look beyond your own limited resources to God’s unlimited power to provide for you. Turn your worries into prayers by refusing to dwell on anxieties and choosing to pray about them instead. Make a habit of praying about your concerns as soon as they come into your mind. Don’t forge ahead with your own plans in situations where you don’t yet see what God is doing; wait for His guidance to become clear to you before acting. Listen to advice from faithful people you respect and trust. Read and meditate on God’s promises from Scripture that apply to the challenges you’re currently facing. Trust God to help you in every area of your life rather than withholding certain parts from Him. Thank God for the many ways He has delivered you in the past, and trust Him to continue to do so.

    Discover God as your anchor to overcome dependence. When you ask, “Will I be rescued?”, realize that God has already rescued you from sin and its consequences through Jesus’ work on the cross. Decide to tap into the power that God has already made available to you. Look to God to complete you – not another person. Instead of bemoaning frustrating circumstances, focus on the state of your heart, asking God to give you the internal peace that will fulfill you despite your circumstances. Consider what your life would look like without your relationship with Jesus, and let Him know how grateful you are for all He has done for you. Trust God’s strength to help you in your weakness. Make a daily habit of relying on God’s power instead of your own, so you can face whatever situations you encounter with confidence.

    Discover God as your guide to overcome worldliness. When you ask, “Will I be successful?” realize that you don’t need to worry about that when you follow where God leads you. The ultimate success is fulfilling God’s great purposes for your life, so make that your goal – whether or not other people happen to view you as successful. Each day, ask God to guide your decisions in every area of your life (from your relationships with family and friends, to your career and volunteer work). Learn from your mistakes and failures so you can grow. Share your dreams with a few trusted friends, and ask them to pray with you about them. Be willing to let go of dreams that don’t align with God’s will for you, and to take the risks necessary to pursue the dreams God has placed in your heart. Remember that God’s view of success is far different from our culture’s view. True success isn’t about what you’ve accomplished or what you possess; it’s about the quality of your relationship with God through Jesus. As long as you’re doing your best to follow where God leads you, you’re successful.

    Discover God as your guard to overcome self-protection. When you ask, “Who will protect me?” realize that God is the only One who truly can protect you – and He will, if you invite Him to do so. Don’t try to escape the reality of our fallen world through fantasies (like escaping into books or movies), by numbing yourself (such as by consuming alcohol or drugs), or through isolating yourself from meaningful relationships with other people. Instead, be honest about your struggles and willing to be vulnerable about them with God and other people you trust. Remember how God has answered your prayers in the past, and trust Him to continue to do so as you present your struggles to Him and ask Him to intervene. Every day, put on the full armor of God mentioned in the Bible – truth, righteousness, readiness, faith, salvation, and the Word of God – to guard against evil. Pray for your enemies and be willing to forgive, with God’s help. Remember that God will use even the worst circumstances in your life to accomplish good purposes if you trust Him.

    Discover God as your advocate to overcome approval seeking. When you ask, “What do others think of me?” realize that, no matter what they think, God loves you fully, just as you are. He cares about your deepest needs.  He will uphold your cause. He sees who you really are, and He loves you anyway. Let go of anxiety over what other people think of you (from your appearance to your performance). Don’t compare yourself with others; embrace the unique person that God created you to be. Don’t let harsh judgment from other people bother you, because God’s opinion is the only one that ultimately matters. Pray for the courage you need to make decisions that please God, no matter how others might react. Give other people grace when you disagree with them, trusting God to judge them however He sees fit. Read Scripture passages about God’s love for you, and trust that all of His actions toward you are motivated by His great love.

    Discover God as your comforter to overcome fears of being alone. When you ask, “Will I be alone?” realize that God will never leave you or forsake you. Ask Him to help you be aware of His constant presence with you. Resist entering into a romantic relationship with the wrong person just because you don’t want to be alone. Don’t look to another person – whether a romantic partner, a close friend, or a family member – to meet needs that only God can meet for you. Understand that you can be alone without being lonely. Whenever you feel lonely, pray about your feelings, and God will comfort you. Read comforting Scripture verses when you’re going through any type of struggle, and apply them to your situation. When you sense a void in your life, turn to God instead of romance or a co-dependent relationship to fill the void. Ask God to help you be sexually pure, and to build intimacy in healthy ways with Him and other people. Rest assured that God will always be there for you whenever you need Him.

    Source: http://www.crosswalk.com/spirituallife/women/11570022/


    “Never forget that once upon a time, in an unguarded moment, you recognized yourself as a friend.”

    Genesis 1:27
    God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.
    1 Corinthians 3:16
    Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you?




    I whole-heartedly believe that people come into your life for a reason. God gives you people who break your heart and others who put it back together.

    Maybe the best you can offer people is honesty and an open heart. Being vulnerable allows you to be completely moved and inspired in ways that can change your life. Sometimes you have to share your soul and hope that the world won’t be reckless with it.

    Whatever you do and whatever you love… Be passionate about it.

    take me


    I’m struggling to drown out all the voices in my life that tell me who I’m supposed to be. All I long for right now is silence from the world and the courage to say, God, I’ll go where You send me.